Breaking the Good Girl rules

From a very young age I was a good, well-behaved girl. 

Daddy’s princess and Mummy’s angelic companion.

I don’t remember obsessing over fairytales or Barbie dolls, but I was nevertheless innocently soaking up all the cues and conditioning about how a girl/woman ‘should’ behave. 

Absorbing that sh*t up like a mega carwash sponge.

Unaware how the unwritten rules were programming and taming me. 

Rules that were preparing me to be a worthy wife, a model mother, and a slave to cultural, economic and religious systems that devalue gentle, sensitive, creative, ‘weak’ feminine qualities, curtail a woman’s influence and authority, and disconnect her from the wonder of her body.

Putting me in a prison without bars.

A few years ago I became aware that I struggled to break the rules. 

My good girl wouldn't let me park in a ‘No parking’ zone, even for a minute when the parking inspectors are nowhere to be seen. 

She strictly follows the speed limits through unattended roadworks in the middle of whoop whoop. (Trust me, there are no speed cameras in Outback Aus!) 

The conditioning is so strong. 

I even follow my own, Good Girl rules, to a T. And when I don't, there’s a very loud voice in my head drawing my attention to the misdemeanour.

I don't want to get in trouble, make a mistake, hurt anyone or feel guilty. 

I play it safe. 

For most of my life, like most Western women, I've trusted the medical profession knew what was best for my body, I didn’t question why it was taboo to talk about money, sex or power, and I believed my life was not complete unless my perfect Prince could sweep me of my feet and give me a happily ever after ending.   

But, this past year, as I’ve gone digging into the depths of the unspoken, taboo and hidden areas of our lives, I’ve seen the invisible rules and structures that keep women restrained and contained in the world. 

I’m sick of following the forked rules that don’t serve women. 

So, given this is my game of life. I'm choosing my own adventure and the 'unwritten' rules I want to follow. 

Wanna to join me? 

It's time to notice the unspoken, hidden rules you're following. Become aware of their power over you. 

Remember, you have a choice.

Look out for the rules that you’ve created for yourself and those that you inadvertently obey.

Before you follow them, pause. 

Take a minute or two to process your options. 

Ask a question. 

Get more information.

And when you have what you need, choose freely.

You’ll experience freedom. 

x Penny

ps. I’ve been breaking out of my own prison this year, and I’m continuing to Discover My Wild next year. I’d love you to journey alongside me.

If you’re ready to dive in, remove the shame and sexual stigma of your body, and peel back the final barriers to feeling free in your beautiful body, check out the details of my Full Moon, Stripped Back event on 30th December in Port Fairy, and the 28th January in Melbourne. If you’re in Sydney and keen, let me know as I’ve had a request to run one in 2021 and you could be a part of it!

I’ll also be running more Wild sessions on the taboo topics of our Womanly cycles,, Sensual body and sexual stuff in the new year. A Create Your Wild Power series where we’ll cover all the power Ps - pussy, periods, play, and pleasure. This will be a revamp of the sessions that I’ve run this year and will begin in Feb (dates TBC). I’d love to do them in person, as well as online, and self paced. Let me know if you’re interested and I’ll make sure you’re the first to get all the details and you get a fun friends only goodie.

Photo of Princess Penny, age 5, ;-)