TURNED ON: Wild, free & sexy in your midlife
Are you ready to turn on the light switch of your soul and live an authentic, radiant, unapologetically pleasure-filled life?
I’m Penny van der Sluys, I empower women in their midlife who are struggling to love their body and prioritise pleasure, play and passion, and help them discover their powerful, untapped sensual, sexual and feminine energy so they can feel wild, free, sexy in their body and life.
Journey with me as we explore the aspects of our lives that are taboo and surrounded in shame, and reveal the keys to access to pleasure and joy in your midlife and beyond!
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Episode #60: Slaying the Good Girl to get your power back with Sophia Elcock, Certified Life Coach, Reiki Master & Past Life Regression practitioner
Are you a good girl?
Do you suffer from perfectionism or procastination?
Is it hard for you to say 'No'?
If so, you're not alone! Even those women who don't relate to being a 'Good Girl' are potentially unaware that they're trapped in belief patterns that underpin the Good Girl Syndrome.
In this episode, I talk with Sophia Elcock, a Life Coach with her Masters in Counselling Psychology, about how we can recognise and overcome the patterns of behavior and thought that keep women from fully embracing their authentic selves.
Sophia shares her insights on slaying the 'good girl' within, moving beyond societal and self-imposed limitations, and stepping into one's power with confidence and freedom.
Sophia shares personal anecdotes, practical advice, and empowering strategies to reclaim one's identity and live a life aligned with one's true desires.
Listen in to hear her share:
What is ‘Good Girl Syndrome’?
How to establish if you are a 'good girl'
What characteristics and patterns are seen in the Good Girl Syndrome
How we can begin to see our blind spots.
What slaying involves!
What your body might be telling you
How we can show up authentically
Tips on how you can slay your good girl
The importance of boundaries, saying No, asking for help, and not taking things personally
The book mentioned was:
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Listen to Sophia's Travel & Transformation podcast on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/66lr5QzwI3dcVeTzZznTor
You can connect with Sophia
via Instagram @sophia_i_got_IG and @createlifeyourway
Episode #59: Exploring your sexual evolution with Vanessa Moon, Aunty-Priestess & sensual empowerment guide for women over 35
Have you considered that your sexual interest, identity, and preference can change and evolve over your lifetime?
During puberty, and now, during midlife, our second puberty, so many influences are impacting how we feel in our body, show up in life, and express ourselves sexually.
In this conversation, with Vanessa Moon, Aunty Priestess, and sexual empowerment guide for women over 35, we delve into how we can explore the world of sensuality, sexuality, and self-acceptance to experience more pleasure and turn on in our midlife.
We explore factors that impact our sexual expression, how kink and tantra are powerful tools for self awareness and expanding pleasure, and tips for navigating changes during perimenopause.
Tune in to hear Vanessa talk about:
How her capacity for pleasure and turn on has been expanded by kink and tantra.
What is sapphic
What is Bi plus, and three aspects to it.
The nuances in women loving women
How our turn on and sexuality can change as we age and transition through perimenopause
How body changes can impact how you relate to yourself
Exploring your sexuality and identity late in life (sometimes referred to as Late in life lesbians)
What is meant by heteronormative, compulsive sexuality and comphet
What is tantric kink
What she calls B.T.S.M
The different aspects of tantra that you can explore and that can expand your experience of pleasure.
What is deamouring and an example of how she dearmoured a part of her body
Womb work and energetic orgasms
Kink is not always sexual and can introduce beautiful ways to play with friends
Getting support when exploring tantra and kink
Exploring kink online, and the possibilities that this opens up.
Reframing and reclaiming experiences using the power of our mind and imagination.
Exploring disgust with kink
How your sexuality evolves during menopause
Disgust you may experience towards your body during perimenopause
Body neutrality and acceptance
Tips for adjusting to the changes in your body and how it may affect you sexually
Investing in yourself
You can connect with Vanessa via:
Instagram: @yespriestess Facebook: www.facebook.com/yespriestessofficial Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yespriestess Youtube: @VanessaChats (no website at this time) Free Offer: "Exploration Elixir" is a FREE weekly Community-Driven Self Care session - join my IG channel https://ig.me/j/AbbMn4WHB9va4YMF/ to vote for each week's self care session and catch me LIVE every Wednesday morning.
Episode #58: What’s happening to your brain, body and heart in perimenopause? with Bria Gadd, 'The Period Whisperer', functional diagnostic practitioner, and holistic health coach
The information we've been given about perimenopause is basic at best, horrendously incomplete and misleading at it's worst.
We've been led to believe we need to endure a checklist of symptoms, and we should seek support to survive this stage of our life.
In this episode I talk with Bria Gadd, holistic health coach, functional diagnostic practitioner, and host of the podcast, 'The Period Whisperer', to share a different, empowering, informative message about what happens to our brain, body and heart in perimenopause.
Bria clearly and cleverly provides an easy to understand outline of changes we can expect, relatable analogies, and what you can do to embrace the opportunities and gifts this period of life presents.
Tune in to hear her share:
What turned on living looks like
Her personal journey that led her to focus on understanding what’s happening to our bodies in perimenopause
The reasons why we don’t know much about perimenopause
How social media can stress us and also be an asset and valuable source of support and information
A brilliant Baby Whisper acronym that inspired her
What is menopause and perimenopause, and easy ways to know if you’re in them.
Why it’s helpful to consider perimenopause reverse puberty
Really helpful and empowering analogies and explain the changes we experience in the transition
Healthy signs you’re in perimenopause
Some of the undesirable signs you can experience, especially if your hormones are out of balance.
The gift of perimenopause
The science behind what is changing in our brain, and why things in our past can start to surface.
How estrogen impacts us during our menstrual cycle and why we notice a change when it drops during perimenopause
How our stress levels can impact us in perimenopause
Why we need to adjust the way we exercise, or it can hinder not help us.
Three major areas we source energy that are critical to how we experience stress.
The difference between functional movement and fitness, and when it’s best to focus on each.
How your heart is impacted in perimenopause
What primary and secondary foods are, and why we need to focus on sourcing primary foods to nourish and sustain us.
The discomfort that comes from resisting change and discovering that you’ve been fitting in because of cultural conditioning.
Asking yourself where are you out of alignment
You can connect with Bria via her
Website: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bria_period_whisperer/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BriaThePeriodWhisperer/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@briagadd
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bria_period_whisperer
Podcast: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/the-period-whisperer-podcast
Get her FREE Daily Hormone Checklist here: https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/DailyHormoneChecklist
Episode #57: Creating a sensual connection with your body, with Rose, Tantric masseuse
Tantra is the gold star of sexual experiences, and massages are always a favourite.
So what happens when you combine them? What is possible?
In this episode, I chat with Rose, a Tantric masseuse, to explore how she transformed her relationship with her body from one of loathing to one of love and appreciation, and what she loves about tantric massage.
We talk about the importance of creating a connection with your body, and how Tantric massage is a powerful way you can experience sensual connection with your body.
Tune in to hear Rose share:
What turns her on
How an accident early in her life set her up for hating her body and feeling like an outsider.
Her experience disconnecting from her body and experiencing bullying and shame.
What she did to try and love herself
How age has helped her to connect with her body
Her path to becoming a tantric masseuse through sensual massage
What is tantric massage
The difference between sensual and tantric massage
How they create a really safe space for the massage
The different types and ways you can be touched
Tips for creating and cultivating connection with your body
Here is a link to some Guided meditations -
https://youtu.be/dfeZQInZh_k?si=vuE0AVMyeAlkz_yx
https://youtu.be/m0JlPwbN7Ek?si=_sGiIjYtf72C-qYi
https://youtu.be/zYyhs3Whjqo?si=f_Y-5k5vrLEiT1AA
https://youtu.be/DcForKaZPqA?si=f5dN5r4A99iTqEd1
You can connect with Rose via her new socials/brand:
Website: www.houseoftantra.com.au
Email: houseoftantraau@gmail.com
Insta: @house.of.tantra.au
Tiktok: @houseoftantraau
Episode #56: Beyond taboos: exploring nude yoga, squirting, yoni eggs and pleasure with Rosie Rees, Women’s relationship coach, founder & CEO of ‘Yoni Pleasure Palace’, & ‘Naked Awakening’
There's so much to discover beyond the many taboos surrounding our bodies, sex and pleasure.
In this episode, I invite Rosie Rees, a pioneer and role model in the sexual wellness and pleasure space, to talk about some unique, powerful and transformative ways to move beyond taboos and create a healthy relationship with your body and pleasure potential.
Listen to our conversation to hear Rosie share about:
What turns her on
How we can be more confident talking about sex and our desires
How the silence around sex is a cause of trauma
Being okay not talking about sex with some people.
Sex positive conversations around our children
How we can unlearn sexual shame
The #stopsuckingitin movement
The part of the body women seem to struggle with the most
How sucking our tummies in impacts women of all shapes and sizes.
The harm that sucking in can cause.
What nude yoga is, and isn’t!
What it is about nude yoga that’s so powerful
The positive flow on effects of getting nude around others.
Tips for how you can start to get comfortable in the nude
How her products can help us to let go, get messy, be wild and free.
How versatile and functional a splash blanket can be - for intimacy and lifestyle - so many practical uses!
Squirting, who can do it and how
How to wake up your G spot
How surrendering, self pleasure, slowing down and making sounds will open up your world
Creating a relationship with your yoni, and listening to her
How important it is to not give up on pleasure or your yoni ever!
How using a Yoni egg can be supportive
Why your sex life deserves to be prioritised.
You can connect with Rosie via Instagram
@rosie.rees
@yoni_pleasure_palace
@splashblanket
@nakedawakening
Use my code SUPERNOVA to get 10% off any products at Yoni Pleasure Palace or Splash Blanket
Yonipleasurepalace.com
splashblanket.com
rosierees.com
Episode #55: Energise your midlife - exploring energy as support through menopause with Shari Lillico, Author, speaker, inner peace mentor and intuitive energy healer
Feeling energised in our midlife can be elusive.
For many of us, our awareness and understanding of energy is limited, undervalued or appreciated.
The power that comes from tapping into, and relating to metaphysical and ancient wisdom, is cloaked in mystery and misunderstanding.
In this episode, I explore how energy can support us through menopause with Shari Lillico, a best-selling author, speaker, inner peace mentor and intuitive energy healer.
We talk about how she has delved into spirituality, metaphysics, and Energy Medicine in her midlife and discuss simple ways you can navigate some of the physical and emotional challenges that comes with our bodies transitioning through menopause.
Tune in to hear Shari share about:
How we all have a dragon guide!
How your dragon guide can serve you.
How she found her way into energy medicine.
What is energy medicine, and specifically Eden energy medicine.
Tips and tools to support your body experiencing menopausal challenges
Listening to our body
The triple warmer
Activating our spleen meridian
The power of the forehead hold
The hot flash/flush head hold
Different ways you can support your energy body through midlife
You can connect with Shari via:
https://www.sharilillico.com/
Facebook : facebook.com/Iamsharilillico
and tic tok: Iamsharilillico
To find out more about Eden Energy Medicine, visit:
https://edenmethod.com/
Episode #54: Freedom from shame, fear, worry and anxiety with Dr Marcia Martin, Heart healer, Spiritual empowerment counsellor & Founder, The Heart Healing Foundation
Do you feel like shame, worry or anxiety keeps you stuck?
Have you questioned why you have to deal with pain, suffering and traumatic times?
Are you tired of dealing with your circumstances?
Would you like to be free of these feelings?
If you're open to new ways and spiritual perspectives, this episode with Dr Marcia Martin, a heart healer, Spiritual empowerment counsellor and Founder of The Heart Healing Foundation, will speak to you!
Marcia is a metaphysical minister, bestselling author, public speaker, and clairaudient angel communicator specialising in helping people heal their relationship with themselves. She shares what's possible when we connect with the angelic realm, heal our heart of all past pain and trauma, and get access to a turned on life.
Tune in to hear Marcia talk about:
Feeling turned on by connection with angels
The different 'Clair' ways to connect with angels and the energetic realm
Which 'Clair' is the easiest to discover
Looking at life through a lens of joy
How focusing on age is limiting
What we can do that’s supportive when life is heavy, hard and challenging
Understand that you’re not being punished or deserve the situation you’re in.
What challenges offer us
How we can support ourselves when faced with shame, fear, anxiety & challenges
The value in childlike exploration, trying and giving it a go
Empathic beings and how you know if you’re empathic
The Ho-oponopono prayer - and a slightly modified version to try
How we have been taught to measure our worth
Feeling and expressing pain
Checking in with our heart
How we can ask for Angelic assistance
The worry lane and the possibility lane
Addressing concerns you may have about trusting angelic or divine guidance
How we access freedom
Doing what is best for you - being ok with being where you are
Questions you can ask yourself to help move through stuck, painful, challenging times
Congratulating vs criticising
Our focus and law of attraction
Putting yourself first and the distinction between selfish and selfless
How we relate to God, Mother and Father God/energy
You can connect with Marcia and benefit from her work through:
website -www.thehearthealingfoundation.org
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/DrMarciaMartintheHeartHealer
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/marciamartinthehearthealer
Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mmhearthealer
Twitter - https://twitter.com/MMHeartHealer
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mmhearthealer
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/illuminateandtr/spiritual-messages-from-the-heart-healer/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mmhearthealer
Blog: https://illuminateandtransform.wordpress.com/
To receive your free ebook that explains 11 ways we resist angelic assistance and what you can do to receive their help, go to https://www.thehearthealingfoundation.org/11ways
Episode #53: You're never to old to swim cold with Cat Barratt, Wild & cold water dipper, sea swimmer, and custodian of the Phillip Island Submerge swim group
Wim Hof has made cold water showers and ice baths trendy. And most of us 'know' that time in cold water has benefits.
But what else might open up for us if we embrace time in cold water?
Cat Barratt, my guest in this episode, who began dipping and swimming with her seaside community over 365 consecutive days has discovered lots about the power of a goals, community and connection.
We talk about how this experience helped her to feel at home, have fun, and invigorate her in ways she would never have anticipated.
Tune in to be inspired and hear Cat share:
What a turn on ocean swimming can be
How swimmers swim knowing there are sharks
How creating a goal made a difference
Tips for finding a dip/swim group
Why she ditched the wetsuit
The benefits you get from dipping in community
The ways you can create a pleasurable experience
What keeps her coming back even after reaching her goal
The benefits of cold water on your health and wellbeing
Tips and suggestions for those curious or interested in cold dipping, swimming
The health risks
Signs of hyperthermia that should not be ignored
The temperature of ‘cold’ water.
Tips on how to warm up afterwards, some she picked up from surfers!
Ideas for her next challenge
Creating your own inspiring challenge
Body shape and weight need not be a barrier
The positive impact on her type 2 diabetes
The benefits of cold showers
The challenges of swimming solo and in the dark
What she wishes all women in their midlife knew
The best dipping dress ups and events
You can connect with Cat on Instagram
@catswimswild
@submerge_phillipisland
Episode #52: Hiking to the heart with Jo Cordell-Cooper, Award winning Personal trainer & Founder of Holistic Hiker
Getting out into nature and hiking is one of the best ways we can look after our heart, and get to the heart of what makes us feel wild, free & sexy!
As we move through mid life and beyond, it's up to us to understand how we can support our bodies and heart to live life to the fullest and experience what we love.
Jo Cordell-Cooper, an award winning Personal Trainer with a passion for hiking, holistic health and sharing the benefits of hiking, will inspire you, with her passion and knowledge specific to women's health, to get active, outdoors, and in nature in ways that'll feel good for you.
Whatever your relationship is with hiking, you'll discover why so many fall in love with this activity.
Listen now to hear Jo share:
What a turn on hiking is.
How hiking can be a natural stress reliever
The power of having a hiking goal to work towards
The difference between trekking, hiking, bushwalking, walking and stepping
Training for different terrains using what you have access to.
A common muscle that is neglected and needs attention
The best ways to find hiking companions
Ensuring advice you receive is appropriate for your body and life stage
The benefits and barriers to walking in your midlife
The muscles that need a lot of attention and often get neglected
Finding the right adventure and challenge for your body
The wisdom available when you’re mindful in nature
How you can get over barriers to experiencing hiking
Tips for women going through menopause
You can connect with Jo via
web and email - jocc.com.au / jo@jocc.com.au
FB - Jo CC Holistic PT https://www.facebook.com/joccholisticpt
Holistic Hiker
FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/holisticpersonaltraining
Episode #51: Expand your pleasure potential with tools & toys with Patricia Schwarz, Self love & pleasure Queen & pleasure toy reviewer
Finally, the education and conversation about sex toys that you never had!
Whether you're new to them, or have been using them for years, this episode with Patricia Schwarz, Self Love & Pleasure Queen, and Pleasure toy reviewer, will expand your knowledge and hopefully inspire you to broaden your experience with pleasure tools and toys!
Tune in to hear me ask all the questions you've always wanted to know, and Patricia passionately and graciously share what's possible for you with pleasure tools and toys.
We cover so much, including:
The best foundation to then build on with pleasure tools and toys
Beliefs and factors to consider before getting started
Do you want solo or partner play?
The different kinds of pleasure tools
The tools you have in your home
The importance of only choosing tools that are body safe
Tips on lubes
Lube use in your midlife to support dryness
How she became a pleasure tool reviewer
Factors to consider when buying dual (‘rabbit’) and cliteral (air pull/wave) stimulation
The best way to approach using new toys
The impact of ovulation and your cycle on your experience
Is there a favourite toy or one she recommends the most
Not all tools are designed to get you to orgasm
A tip for toys you can use doing housework, shopping and outside the bedroom!
Things to watch out for when buying toys online
How to clean and care for your toys
Can you get addicted or too reliant on toys?
Big toys and will they make you loose
Crystal and glass wands
How price and quality usually correlate
How toys are packaged, received in the mail
Tips on storing your toys
Connect with Patricia and get her free ebook via her
Website:
selflovepleasure.com
Follow or message her via Instagram:
@selflovepleasure_
@selflovepleasuretoyqueen
Episode #50: Where has my libido gone? with Chloe Mascord, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, Sexual Wellness facilitator & founder of Honey-Ed
Has your libido taken a dive or disappeared?
Are you wondering where your sex life has gone?
Are you too busy for sex and have no idea how anyone can squeeze it in?
Are libido levels impacting your relationship or desire to find one? Do you know someone who has a low libido?
This is a hot topic and a very familiar one for Certified Sex & intimacy coach and sexual wellness facilitator, Chloe Mascord. Chloe has personal and professional experience managing low libido and she joins me to explore the facts and fiction around libido levels. This conversation will inspire you to put sex back on the top of your priority list, whatever the libido levels in your life are right now.
We cover lots in this episode, including:
Feeling turned on in surprising ways
What is libido and how is it different from arousal and desire?
How does horny fit in?
The possibility of experiencing arousal without desire and vice versa.
Should we be concerned about low libido?
One question you need to ask yourself if you have low libido Once libido is low, will it always be low? The rates of low libido in women and men
Why you might want to notice and focus on your libido
One thing women often do that impacts their libido
Investing in your libido
Common factors that impact your libido
The mismatch and different libido levels in relationship
The most important ingredient in navigating low libido in a partnership
Why we find it difficult to communicate in a sexual partnership
Tips on how you could introduce a conversation about sex with your partner
The impacts of medication and hormones on your libido and what you can do about that
Connecting with, rather than fighting and resisting, your body
What the research says about the impact of age on sexual desire and libido
Busting myths about what impacts your libido
Men have low libido too Factors that are known to impact men's libido
Whether Sexual satisfaction and libido are correlated
Getting to know your pleasure profile
Being curious and exploring when you discover what you like, or might like to experience.
Having fun and example of how she has done that with a client.
You get to choose, it’s your life.
The positive impact of self pleasure on your libido
Broadening our understanding of what sex is
Resources mentioned: Esther Perel and her book ‘Mating in Captivity’
Julie & John Gottman https://www.gottman.com/ Shana James and her book ‘Honest Sex’.
Check out our podcast Ep #19
You can get in touch with Chloe on her:
Instagram @thehoneyed.official
website www.honey-ed.com
Download your free guide; Reignite your libido in 15 minutes a day at www.honey-ed.com/freebie
Episode #49: Being comfortable with what we see in the mirror with Dianne Catterall, holistic beauty practitioner and Founder, Glad All Over
How do you feel when you look in the mirror? Do you love or loath what you see?
How do you relate to your self image? Are you aware that what you see may be different to how others see you?
In this conversation, Dianne Catterall, a holistic beauty practitioner, and I discuss self image, beauty and how we can feel comfortable with how we are seen and show up in the world.
Listen to hear us talk about:
How the word beauty can be activating for some people.
Her preference for the word glory
Makeup as art and using techniques to enhance features
Being kind to our bodies
HerSTORY and how women’s bodies were revered
Connecting in with, and accepting, parts of your body
Your inner child and what you would say to her.
Our self talk
can we make a difference to the world and have a change if we don't first love ourselves and accept ourselves?
Another’s perception of our beauty
Our unique differences
The messages in how we dress and the clothing we choose
Taking photos to get comfortable with how you look
How playing in my September challenge connected her with her body
How you want to show up
Choosing the people in your life that bring you joy
Connect with Dianne:
Instagram @gladalloverau
website https://www.gladallover.me/
More info on the Wonder Women Club: pennyvandersluys.com/wonder
If you want to be notified about the next 'Bringing Sexy Back' or 'SEXtember' challenge, email me: penny@pennyvandersluys.com
Episode #48: How to love your money with Megan Christie, Money behaviour mentor and Certified Money Coach
What's your relationship with money?
Do you love and embrace money?
How can you love the money you have - regardless of the amount?
In this episode I talk with Megan Christie, a Money Behaviour Mentor & Certified Money Coach to explore ways you can love your money.
Tune in to hear us discuss:
What is it about money that turns her on
where we learn our beliefs about money
The two sides/aspects of money
The power of fear & scarcity
Noticing generational money habits and lessons
How women haven’t had money role models and been shown how to manage money
The meaning we attach to money
Judgement around money
Questions you can ask yourself to help raise awareness of your money beliefs
How to move past your money beliefs
Neutralising the emotion around money
The importance of feeling safe and getting our needs met
Understanding energy and your nervous system
How you can face your money fears
How you know what is enough
The importance of understanding how you want to feel around money
The biggest money risks for women
The female caring economy penalty
The confronting fact that the face of poverty is a 55 year old female in Australia
Women at the decision making table
References:
'It’s Not My Money' by Tosha Silver
You can connect with Megan on
https://www.instagram.com/meganchristie_moneycoaching
Book a seat in our Money Circle in Inner East Melbourne on 5th March, 7-9pm via Eventbrite
https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/money-circle-with-megan-christie-money-behaviour-mentor-coach-tickets-844664071977
Episode #47: Porn & its impact on us with Caitlin Bridgette, Somatic sex coach, sensual dance teacher & founder of Authentic Sensuality School
How do you feel about pornography?
Does it turn you on?
Intrigue you?
Or concern you?
Whatever your relationship and understanding of porn, there's so much to we don't discuss about this taboo topic.
And lucky for us, Caitlin Bridgette, a Certified Somatic Sex Coach and teacher of sensual dance, has an interest in shining a light on, and helping us unpack, the impact of porn on us.
Tune in to hear her share about:
What does turned on living look like
How she developed an interest in the impact of pornography on us
What is pornography and the scope of this topic
The cultural context of social media, influencers, and movements like NoFap (obtaining from masturbation) & Booktok (tiktok content about books)
Censorship
Accessibility of porn, particularly for young children
Lack of consent conversations modelled in porn
What is considered violent and degrading content
How unrealistic the sex is that is being portrayed in pornography and mainstream content
How you can support ethical content creators rather than big industry sites
Ethical pornography
What to do if your partner is consuming pornography you don’t likely
Anonymity and personas are key to protecting performers
Separating what is real from what is fiction
Where to get quality sex and consent educational content
The difference between an enthusiastic yes and an enthusiastic maybe
What you desire in fantasy vs reality
Monogamy and sexual satisfaction
Being responsible for your own pleasure
The porn industry is built for male fantasy and sexual desire
Tips for where you can find porn options that are tailored for female fantasy and desire, and your age/life stage
You can connect with Caitlin via her socials:
Business instagram - @a_s_school
Personal/performer - @caitlin_catastrophe
Some of the references and resources mentioned include:
Consent Laid Bare - written by Chanel Contos
https://onlyfans.com/
Consent Labs @consentlabs on Instagram
Sluts and Scholars is @slutsandscholars on Instagram
The podcast episode she referred to with guest Alex Fawx is number #263, listen on your preferred podcast platforms
Ersties for porn consent conversations is @erstiesofficial on Instagram and Tik Tok
Other ethical porn production companies with educational resources include:
Erika Lust - Instagram @erikalustfilms https://erikalust.com/
Make Love Not Porn - Instagram @makelovenotporn https://makelovenotporn.tv/
Emily Nagoski - https://www.emilynagoski.com/
Episode #46: Juggling life & living on purpose with Rachael Pickworth, Founder, Woman on Purpose & living with ADHD
What is your purpose?
Do you know your purpose?
Are you on a mission to find your purpose?
Or does the whole idea of having a purpose stress you out?
If you've ever thought about or sought out to find your purpose, our your curious about what the fuss is all about, this conversation is for you!
My guest is Rachael Pickworth, is a Business woman, Coach, mother of three, and Founder of Woman on Purpose. She's passionate about supporting conscious women to create aligned, authentic and fully expressed lives that are intentional, spirit-led and on purpose.
She has also been recently diagnosed with ADHD and knows what it is to juggle and balance life while living on purpose.
Tune in to hear us talk about:
Turned on living
What is living on purpose
What living on purpose looks like
How states, frequency, alignment & thoughts are critical to living on purpose
Daily rituals and practices to elevate your frequency and state
Actions you can take over 7 days to make a tangible transformation in your life.
What you focus on grows
Connecting with a higher purpose
When things derail you and you feel challenged
Surrendering, trusting and Unconscious beliefs
The what’s my purpose epidemic
Energetic hygiene
Balancing our feminine and masculine energy
Planning from our higher energetic state
What is ADHD and what is happening in your brain when you have it
Qualities and benefits of having ADHD
The liberation of an ADHD diagnosis
You can connect with Rachael:
http://womanonpurpose.com/
https://www.instagram.com/womanonpurpose.rachael
You can find the playlist she mentions here:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3bLPkbGeq6pCALxfsXw0SR?si=q32UJ3-ZTGyITotDufsGvQ&pi=a-cvj15q1EQVOK&nd=1&dlsi=8cf83d04bcc842b7
Episode #45: The gifts in big life shifts with Katrina Andrew, mentor, coach, founder of The Empowered Coeliac & living alcohol free
When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade?
Does life happen to you, or for you?
In this episode, my guest, Katrina Andrew and I explore the gifts and opportunities that appear when we consciously face challenges and make big life changes.
Katrina is a Mum to 3 teens and a pro at life pivots. She left a life in corporate finance and recruitment to learn and lead in an online clean online clean beauty and wellness business, removed gluten from her diet when she was diagnosed with coeliac disease and stopped drinking alcohol to live a life that exemplifies health and empowerment, and motivates others to follow suit.
Listen to hear us discuss:
The four themes explored in Moulin Rouge that guide her to turn on.
Facing fears and difficult situations - including miscarriage and birth
Accepting and acknowledging changes and being open to new opportunities
The catalysts for change
The symptoms of coeliac disease (that many are unaware of)
The lifestyle challenges faced when diagnosed a coeliac
The number one thing to do to support you when faced with a challenge (or a coeliac diagnosis)
The importance of sleep hygiene
Tips to support you if you’d like to change your relationship with alcohol
What you gain when you don't drink alcohol
What you can do when faced with challenges to help you experience the gifts
The surprising way to get to know yourself and discover gifts when making a lifestyle shift
Connect with Katrina:
https://www.instagram.com/kat_andrew__/
https://www.instagram.com/the_empoweredcoeliac/
www.katrinaandrew.arbonne.com
If you'd like support with life challenges:
Lifeline Australia: Phone: 13 11 11 Lifeline Australia
Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 Beyond Blue
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 Suicide Call Back Service
Headspace (for ages 12-25): 1800 650 890 Headspace
QLife (LGBTI+ support): QLife
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 1800RESPECT
Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia (RDVSA):1800 211 028 Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia
Sexual Assault Support Services (SASS) Sexual Assault Support Services
Blue Knot Foundation - National Centre of Excellence for Complex Trauma 1300 657 380 Blue Knot Foundation
Bravehearts: 1800 272 831: Bravehearts
Outside of Australia:
Befrienders Worldwide provides a directory of helplines worldwide.
Crisis Text Line provides free, confidential support via text messaging. Available in the United States, United Kingdom, Canada, and Ireland.
International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) offers resources and information about suicide prevention worldwide.
Mental Health Europe provides information and resources for mental health support across Europe.
Episode #44: Discovering & cultivating desire with Jenny Braxton, Sex, love & relationship coach, & Founder of Pussy Centered Living
Do you know what you desire?
Do you feel desire?
Are you able to access your sexual desires?
For many women in their midlife, desire is not an area of their life they've had a lot of experience expressing and cultivating.
And it's time this changed!
This conversation with Jenny Braxton, Sex, love & relationship coach, and Founder of the School of Pussy-centered Living, is a super resource and reminder of what is possible for us in our midlife and beyond.
Tune in to hear valuable tips, validation, and information to help you prioritise your desires in your life.
In this conversation we cover:
How she discovered pleasure.
How yoni massage changed her
How taking Self responsibility for pleasure was a game changer
Desire and the desire to have desire
Why desire can feel like it’s fizzled out in a long relationship
The different types of desire we can have - that are normal!
Having a personal practice to cultivate desire
One of the biggest things stopping people from feeling desire
Why she doesn’t use the word masterbation and prefers self pleasure practice
Tips for cultivating our desire
A woman’s struggle to desire
Simple practices to help you unlock what you desire
Planning sex
How being embodied is a key ingredient
Our brain as an erogenous tool
The role fantasy, and Jamie from Outlander can play
Desire in our midlife
The benefits of cultivating and rediscovering desire
Recommended resources:
Wild Feminine by Tammy Lynn Kent.
Jamie in Outlander
Jenny's links:
FB: https://www.facebook.com/jenny.braxton.3
IG: https://www.instagram.com/pusssy.centered.living/
Website: https://www.jennybraxton.com/
https://jennybraxton.mykajabi.com/spcl-jan-turn-on-event-opt-in
Episode #43: Getting to know your Yoni with Kiki Marie, Sexologist and Founder, Yonilicious
How well do you know your Yoni? (do you know what it is?)
Is it a part of your body that you love, honour and respect?
Do you know the benefits of connecting intimately with your yoni?
Whether you're curious, indifferent, or inspired to hear from others who know the value in being informed and connected with their vulva, vagina and womb space, there's much to learn from and share in this conversation with Kiki Marie. (I think it's a must listen for women and vulva owners!)
Kiki is a sexologist, and Founder of the Yonilicious Academy, where she offers high quality, internationally recognised certified training in therapeutic yoni massage and somatic sex coaching.
Tune in to hear our conversation and Kiki share:
What turns her on
How and when she connected with her turn on
The conditions she found helped her connect with Yoni
What is a Yoni, vulva and vagina.
About her vulva line up analogy
The misuse of the word vagina and the confusion it causes.
The benefits of creating a relationship with your Yoni
How can you create a relationship with your Yoni
The shame and suppression that has impacted our relationship with our yoni's
Yoni Eggs
Yoni massage and mapping
The changes we can expect in our yoni in our midlife
How we can support our yoni through life changes
Self exploration
Removing expectations
You can connect with Kiki:
Insta: @Yonilicious or @kiki.maree
Website: yonilicious.com.au/pleasure-portal
Vulva Resources mentioned include:
https://www.all-vulvas-are-beautiful.com/
https://www.labialibrary.org.au/
Episode #42: Death, distress and the unknown with Joan Prentice, chair yoga & meditation teacher, grandmother & mother of three
Strangely death is the only thing that is certain about our life, and yet it is one of the things we rarely talk about and find incredibly difficult to understand.
In this episode, my guest, Joan Prentice, shares about the devastating time of her life when her son died suddenly, aged 17.
This is a conversation where we honour what happened, and allow Joan to talk about this distressing time of her life that she's rarely talked about.
It's a reminder that whilst there's so much in life that will be unknown, it's not a reason to stop living.
Joan shares about:
The despair and shock when there was so much that was unknown regarding his death
The importance of seeking help when we need it
The cost of hiding and covering up pain
Finding hope, light and pleasure in the dark times.
If you feel distressed by this content, it may be best to skip this episode or reach out to people you know and trust, and professionals who can assist you. In the first instance, there are incredible services available with helplines and online resources.
Lifeline Australia: Phone: 13 11 11 Lifeline Australia
Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 Beyond Blue
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 Suicide Call Back Service
Headspace (for ages 12-25): 1800 650 890 Headspace
QLife (LGBTI+ support): QLife
1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 1800RESPECT
Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia (RDVSA):1800 211 028 Rape & Domestic Violence Services Australia
Sexual Assault Support Services (SASS) Sexual Assault Support Services
Blue Knot Foundation - National Centre of Excellence for Complex Trauma 1300 657 380 Blue Knot Foundation
Bravehearts: 1800 272 831: Bravehearts
Outside of Australia:
Befrienders Worldwide provides a directory of helplines worldwide.
Crisis Text Line provides free, confidential support via text messaging. Available in the United States, United Kingdom, Canada, and Ireland.
International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) offers resources and information about suicide prevention worldwide.
Mental Health Europe provides information and resources for mental health support across Europe.
Episode #41: Wisdom & take away tips from my 2023 guests (part 2 - ep 2-19)
This is the second part of a compilation of the key messages my 2023 guests chose to leave women in their midlife. It features my guests from the first episodes of TURNED ON: Wild, free and sexy in your midlife (Episode 2-19, episode 1 was an introduction with me).
Listen in to hear short, powerful takeaways from these incredible women who, like me, want you to live a turned on life.
You will hear from:
Mangala Holland, Sexuality Coach & International Orgasm Expert
Liz Reichard, Qoya Queen & Body Image Expert
Nicole Coutts, Naturopath
Jagriti Bhatia, Founder, Ignite Bollywood
Juliet Schaub, Founder, The Realm of the Divine Huntress School of Sensuality
Helen Zee, Tantric alchemist & intimacy mentor
Carolyn Farrow, Elevated Heath & vitality coach
Naomi Eyers, Singer & Performer
Mugs Haugen, Nurse, coach & living sugar/flour free
Myf Browning, Bra fit specialist, spiritual mentor & breast cancer thriver
Renée Mayne, Madam of the School of Somatic Kink
Peneleapaí, Multidisciplinary artist & integrative therapist
Maria Heart Song, Voice activation alchemist & sharer of Sacred Womb Wisdom
Tatiana Slezak, Author & Bioresonance practitioner
Danielle Soccio, Singer, Performer, Creative mentor & Speaker
Sal Daina, Film & video producer, visibility expert & energy healer
Shana James, Author, Relationship & Dating Coach, & TEDx Speaker
Episode #40: Wisdom & take away tips from my 2023 guests
I almost always ask my guests to share anything that they wish all women in their midlife knew, or something important they want to leave women with before they complete the interview.
This is a compilation of the one thing each guest wants women in their midlife to know as a leaving take away.
39 | Climbing Mt Everest, consent & the cool beyond comfort zones with Jane Kanizay, Mountaineer, mum of 4, and consent campaigner
Breaking new ground and trailblazing can be a turn on.
It clearly is for Jane Kanizay, Mountaineer, Mother of 4, and passionate consent campaigner.
As she shares in this episode, obstacles and mountains can be overcome! She reveals what it's like to stretch your comfort zone when climbing to crazy heights, and redefines what it is to feel cool with her can-do attitude and commitment.
Tune in to hear her talk about:
Why she decided to climb Mount Everest
How long it took to prepare for the climb
What training and preparations she went through
What motivated her
Her experience with cold whilst climbing
The camps and extremes you go through to summit Mt Everest
Going beyond the self-imposed limitations we put on our bodies
The one thing that they didn't talk about with their sherpa guides
Consent, Chanel Contos, and the campaign, Teach Us Consent
The little changes we can make to ensure we don't perpetuate patriachal systems that create gendered differences in our kids
Consent education in schools
Boundaries
How to respond to unwanted touch, or inappropriate comments
The difference we can make when we speak up and call it out
why she is always using self reflection
Jane refers to the book:
Consent Laid Bare by Chanel Contos
The following websites:
https://www.teachusconsent.com/
https://www.ourwatch.org.au/
https://shesacrowd.com/
https://www.thesurvivorhub.org.au/
Podcasts:
This one - other episodes of TURNED ON: Wild, free & sexy in your midlife
Mama Mia
Listenable - with Dylan Allcott - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/listenable/id1500522289
Follow Jane on Instagram at
@jane_kaniz
Or follow
@teachusconsent
@thesurvivorhub
You can listen to more about Jane's expedition on the following podcasts:
UnEwsual
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/unewsual-by-bromley-lynch/id1611987747?i=1000622286565
You can see some footage of Jane's expedition to the summit of Mt Everest on her instagram page:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/Cd9R55Bho8d/?igshid=MzY1NDJmNzMyNQ== https://www.instagram.com/tv/CePf7X4hJ2J/?igshid=MzY1NDJmNzMyNQ== https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzGwKTyvqpi/?igshid=MzY1NDJmNzMyNQ==
Watch Gabby Kanizay's TEDx Currumbin talk
Episode #38: The motherhood, midlife & menopause mix with Nikki Paul, Midwife, Maternal Child Health Nurse, and advocate for families and children
In this episode I asked Nikki Paul, a midwife, maternal child health nurse and advocate for families and children, to join me to explore how to navigate the challenging mix of motherhood, menopause and midlife.
Tune in to hear her share:
What turns her on
About her experience and stand for parents and families.
What we need when we're parents in midlife, and going through transitions
What we’re not really talking about which we really need to, such as going through menopause.
Tips for finding connection as a parent
Everyone needs support and can find it - to keep searching until you do.
What are the challenges as a (midlife) parent
What opens up when you’re vulnerable
Tips to support your sex life when you have babies and young children
The importance of trusting your instincts and gut
How changes in society since we were children can impact us as parents.
Self care
On whether you can learn about parenting if you’ve got tweens and teens
Menopause and what to expect
Being a grandmother in your midlife
Blended and intergenerational families
Podcast info: - Biglife journal- - Ladies, we need to talk - Maggie Dent parental as anything - raising good humans - - conscious parenting Books - Steve Biddulph-raising girl/boys plus families - Maggie Dent -Janet Lansbury -Mona Delahooke PhD -Secrets of womens healthy aging - Dr Sheffali - Postnatal Depletion Oscar Seralach -the five love languages of kids/teens/adults
Nikki also refers to Gabor Mate, Kaz Cooke
Websites
The Holly effect
Zero to three
Happy families
Intuitive mamas + leaders w Maria Golding
Positive parenting solutions
The renegade mama
Aware parenting
Pinky McKay
Meg Nagle-the milk Meg
Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids - Stephanie Pinto
Plus there are so many more.
Connect with Nikki via her facebook page
Northern Rivers Lactation Plus https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100075916189979
Episode #37: Pumping up the iron for optimal energy with Kate Boyle, Nutritionist, Pilates studio director, and founder of Mind Movement Health
In this episode, I invite Kate Boyle back to explore a topic that you've most likely heard about, possibly even managed yourself. Low iron levels.
Iron has a vital role in living a turned on life. When your iron levels are low, life can feel flat and like you're running on empty.
For many women, levels can be surprisingly difficult to manage, and the best ways to manage it can be uncertain.
For example, should you supplement your diet with iron?
When are iron infusions the way to go?
Do we know what’s really causing it? Or why we have to contend with low levels, even when we increase our iron intake?
Tune in to hear Kate share about her experience with iron deficiency and how it led her to dive deeper into what was the underlying cause.
You'll hear us discuss:
What is anemia
What are symptoms of low iron?
An essential ingredient we need to absorb iron.
Why iron supplements may not work for you.
Gut health, pre & probiotic foods
Foods that damage your gut health
The role vitamin C plays in absorption (it's not what we’ve been led to believe).
Ascorbic acid vs wholefood vitamin C.
Blood tests and what to ask for.
Getting a copy of your blood test results
The importance of getting to the root of a symptom
Getting interested in your medical history
For more information and to check out her online Health and Movement Membership please
head to www.MindMovementHealth.com.au
Follow her on social at;
https://www.facebook.com/MindMovementHealth
https://www.instagram.com/MindMovementHealth
Episode #36: Reduce inflammation & ignite your fire with Kate Boyle, Nutritionist, Pilates Studio director & founder of Mind, Movement & Health platform & podcast
If you're interested in your health, you've heard about inflammation. It's linked to all kinds of health conditions and concerns, particularly with our gut health.
I asked Kate Boyle, a nutritionist, food scientist, pilates instructor, and Founder of Mind, Movement Health, a health platform and podcast, to give us an overview and an understanding of inflammation, how it impacts our health, and what we can do to reduce it so we can feel turned on and alive in our bodies.
Tune in to discover:
What is inflammation?
How do we know if we have it?
Tips to reduce inflammation.
The chemicals to look out for in your food
Why chips and processed food can be so addictive
Fast Food and the tricks it plays on our mind
Whether it's best to avoid gluten
What's contributing to autoimmune conditions
How our vagus nerve can help us get turned on
A cold water plunge health hack
Why a cold plunge is so good for us
Stress and the best way to manage it
Lots of ways you can quickly reduce your stress levels during the day
For more information and to check out her online Health and Movement Membership please
head to www.MindMovementHealth.com.au
Follow her on social at;
https://www.facebook.com/MindMovementHealth
https://www.instagram.com/MindMovementHealth
Episode #35: Meet your Sacred CEO with Skye J Williams, Transformation facilitator, medicine woman, & Quantum business mentor
Do you have an inner knowing, a calling, or a part of your soul that wants to be seen?
Do you want to make a difference, leave a legacy, or create meaningful change in the world?
Your Sacred CEO is behind these desires.
In this episode I chat with Skye J Williams to introduce you to your Sacred CEO, the part of you that wants to lead and fully express your soul's mission. Learn how you can get to know this aspect of yourself and how it will empower you.
When you listen to our conversation, you'll discover:
How being fully expressed is a turn on
What is a sacred CEO
What differentiates a CEO from a sacred CEO
Do we all have a sacred CEO?
How to find your purpose
What is liberation
Self leadership and creatrix energy
Conditioning and generational
Why there’s no such thing as failure
Three steps to move into alignment and onto the path of your sacred CEO, when your external situation feels limiting.
One of our biggest challenges
Embodiment and the relationship with self
The biggest conversation for us to have
The importance of following the nudges
An example of the steps to revealing your Sacred CEO
Investing in yourself
You can connect with Skye on her socials:
https://instagram.com/skyejadecollective?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==
https://www.facebook.com/skye.j.williams.9803?mibextid=kFxxJD
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1851401801674507/?ref=share_group_link
Episode #34: Tapping to turn on sexually with Gayle Frances, Hypnotherapist, EFT practitioner & author of 'Turn on the Happy Tap'
Gayle returns to dive deeper into what's possible with tapping, as we didn't fully explore how tapping can be used to enhance your sex life.
Tune in to hear Gayle Frances, hypnotherapist, EFT practitioner, and author of 'Turn on the Happy Tap' share how you can use EFT to expand your sexual experiences.
[If you haven't already listened to Episode 33 - Getting Turned on with tapping - check that out first, although the episodes are independent of one another.]
In this episode we explore:
Lower vibrations, the frequency scale and how frequency is healing DNA
The present moment and pure potential
One way to wake yourself up sexually
A great first step, especially if you feel numb/shut down/disconnected sexually
What type of tapping can we try
The impact of pressure and rhythm - and the different options available to you
The unique qualities and power of our hands that are used in tapping
Tapping your vulva and clitoris
What you can do if you don’t have sexual desires, or libido.
How we can use tapping to access our higher frequencies and manifest our desires
A tapping sequence and how you can amplify its power when you do it in a particular location.
A tapping exercise as foreplay
Connect with Gayle and download her free tapping resources at gaylefrances.com
You can see some of her video demonstrations on her facebook page https://www.facebook.com/TimeToThrivewithGayle
Or YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/@timetothrivewithgayle
Episode #33: Getting turned on with tapping with Gayle Frances, Hypnotherapist, EFT practitioner & author
Can we use EFT tapping to turn ourselves on?
Is it possible that this simple technique can release blocks and get us into flow?
In this episode, Gayle Frances, hypnotherapist, founder of Transformational EFT Tapping Training for hypnotherapists, transformational coach and author of 'Turn on the Happy Tap', gives us insights into how EFT can be used to turn the dial down on our unhelpful emotions so we can access what turns us on.
Tune in to hear Gayle and I discuss:
What is tapping and how it works
What tapping does to your brain.
How tapping allows you to free yourself of unhelpful emotions and turn off stress
How tapping is empowering and gives you confidence and can help you feel more in control.
How tapping can be an effective mindfulness technique, particularly for those who find meditation or sitting in silence challenging.
Using tapping when you need it vs using it daily
Where all the traditional tapping points are, plus two additional BONUS ones!
A live demonstration that you can tap along to.
Our subconscious mind and our 95% autopilot
Tapping as a form of meditation
Tapping in front of others, especially our children
The number 1 benefit of tapping each day
How tapping can turn you on sexually and sensually
The number 1 tip for beginners
Connect with Gayle and download her free tapping resources at gaylefrances.com
You can see some of her video demonstrations on her facebook page https://www.facebook.com/TimeToThrivewithGayle
Or YouTube channel
https://www.youtube.com/@timetothrivewithgayle
Episode #32: What it means to be a friend & sister with Jennifer Karlich
When you're born without a sister, you're led to believe that it's not possible to have one.
In my 40s I was delighted to discover that I had sisters, lots of them. I didn't have to contend with sibling rivalry, or DNA tests or family trees. I learned about a new way of relating with women that is different from friendship. It's a sistership.
In this episode, I explore what it means to be a friend and a sister with Jennifer Karlich, one of my sisters, and an extraordinary, alive woman who is living her best life.
Together we discuss:
What is a sister and what is a friend
Where you can find sisters
The qualities of a sister that are different to that of a typical female friend
How HERstory helps us to understand why we are where we are
Marion Rose's Inner Loving Presence process
The external focus of the friendship model
People pleasing
How knowing yourself leads to deeper connections with others
Three key ingredients you need to find your sisters
What to do when friendships change and you no longer feel aligned.
The turn on that’s available when you connect with sisters.
You can connect with Jen by reaching out to her via email
jenniferkarlich@hotmail.com
Episode #31: Making sustainability sexy and chic with Melissa Kendall
How do we make saving the planet sexy and sassy?
Is it possible to be free of the fears we're f*cking up the future for our kids?
In this episode, I talk with Melissa Kendall, a person HeARTist with a passion for being sustainably sassy, consciously chic, and deliciously detoxed, to explore some of the simple ways we can create real sustainable change for ourselves, the community and for Mother Earth.
Tune in to hear more about:
How you can make sustainability a turn on
Being sustainable from the inside out.
What to do if you feel overwhelmed when it comes to your desire to live sustainably with a minimal footprint
One simple, sustainable tip that will make you feel empowered, and make a difference!
Love vs fear and the role the heart plays
The lie that it costs more to live making heart-led decisions
What is a conscious choice and how do you make one?
A super, simple, easy and cheap toilet cleaner recipe!
Why you need to be cautious of canned food.
How are we exercising our power as consumers
Two simple tips to turn you on.
A sustainable, sensual alternative to tea bags
You can connect with Melissa via:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thefineflow/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thefineflow/
Episode #30: Sexual energy & performance with Özlem Peron
The desire (or possibly pressure) to perform and please a partner, have an orgasm, and get a super sexual release, has the potential to mess with our sexual energy.
By reconnecting with our bodies, being open and curious to all the different ways we can develop, harness and express our sexual energy, and releasing all the societal stories about sex, a whole new world of love, intimacy and pleasure becomes available.
In this episode I invited Ozlem Peron, Sex & Intimacy Coach, back to share more of her experience and knowledge around sexual energy with us.
We recorded it after we ran a workshop on 'Pleasure and the Pelvic Bowl', and took the opportunity to dive deeper into some of the discussion we touched on in episode #27 - Men's sexual appetite.
Tune in to hear more about:
The expectation to perform sexually by reaching orgasm and ejaculation, and the impact on our sexual, life force energy.
How we can find ourselves stuck in our mind
The three things that can instantly get you back into your body from your mind
Conserving our sexual, life force energy How our sexual energy is healing our cells
The benefits of retaining your sexual, life force energy
What to do if one partner wants to explore sexually, and another doesn’t.
Suggested steps to increase intimacy.
Resources Özlem recommends you can check out include:
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by Maneewan Chia and Mantak Chia
The Multi-Orgasmic Woman: Discover Your Full Desire, Pleasure, And Vitality by Mantak Chia
Astral Doorway YouTube channel videos on sexual alchemy, orgasm, non ejaculation and sacred sexuality, especially: https://youtu.be/DAYSxjc-8ro?si=jcjdsYqRmGdgXXPP
You can connect with Özlem:
https://www.youtube.com/@WhiteSamsara
Instagram @whitesamsara
https://www.facebook.com/groups/tantraawakeninglove/?ref=share_group_link
Episode #29: Your sexual health matters with Vireo Karvonen
Did you know that sex is not just an indulgent option on the menu, or a decadent, naughty dessert for you to feel guilty about.
It's the main course!
It's healthy, nourishing, and vital to your health!
So why don't we give it the attention and priority that it deserves?
In this episode I chat with Vireo Karvenon, a pleasure coach, author and expert on sacred femininity and sexuality about why your sexual health matters.
We discuss why it's so important that women have access to information about their anatomy and sexuality, what we can do about the shame and embarrassment that women have about sex and their bodies, and demonstrate the 7 steps to Belief Re-patterning®
Listen in to learn:
Why your sexual health matters
You're not meant to suffer through menstruation and menopause
The contribution our sexual health makes to our overall health
Sex as a main course, not a dessert
Pleasure and sexuality are a fuel physically, mentally and emotionally and spiritually
How shame, your beliefs, and your subconscious mind impact your sexual expression
How belief repatterining can help dissolve shame
The three things you need to support your body to create new neural pathways
Body shame and the rise in women having surgery to change their breasts and vulvas
The seven steps of Belief Re-patterning®
You can connect with Vireo:
https://pleasurecoachvireo.ca/ (scroll down for your free gift) AND Choose your Pleasure:*
weekly Bite Sized Pleasure Moment videos (1 to 2 mins) on Tantric Tuesdays
https://www.facebook.com/vireoauthor (like my business page)
Join Sacred Pleasure Path Sisterhood (by answering 3 questions & agreeing to
group rules):
https://www.facebook.com/groups/sppswomen
Vireo mentions her published work -the details are:
March 2020, her chapter “Transforming That Shame” in compilation “From
Shadows to Light: A Whole Human Approach to Mental Health”.
(Bestseller)
December 2022, her chapter “Being Your Own Heroine & Living in
Ecstasy” in compilation “Divine Feminine Awakening.” (Bestseller)
Episode #28: Doing life with a doula with Leah Patara
The start, middle and the end. The most important elements in a story, and our human life story.
Yet in Western, white culture they're the phases of life that are rarely discussed, heavily medicalised, and largely override the natural, innate wisdom of our bodies to transition effectively through these life stages.
Women are left on their own to struggle through these transitions, without community or spiritual support or guidance.
This is where the doula, sharing ancient wisdom, practices, and ceremonies, can make a huge difference.
In this episode, I talk with Leah Patara, a Doula, Conscious Conception Meditation teacher, and a creator of sacred spaces, about how she supports women to trust their body, receive nurturing physical, emotional and spiritual support, and get the information they need to honour, revere and celebrate the shifts and changes happening as women experience childbirth, and also death.
Together we explore what it would be like to do life with a doula by our side.
Tune in to hear us explore:
What is the role of a doula?
How can a doula help us in life?
The value in going back and reflecting on our own birth experiences
How a doula can help complete a birth experience, even years later.
The different rites of passage ceremonies that are available
Having a doula in midlife, and what that could look like
Why embodiment is so relevant and important
How our daughters can be our doulas.
How we can help heal sister wounds and the trauma that our ancestors carried.
What’s available when we slow down.
Dealing with death of loved ones, relationships, and our roles and identities.
Preparing for your death
The ceremonies and rituals that can accompany death and help with the grieving process
Orgasms, Pleasure and focusing on the simple things
You can connect with Leah via instagram at instagram.com/leahpatarabirthdoula
Leah is offering to include a Closing ceremony (s a half day experience for 4th trimester) with any birth support doula booking. She is also offering a Bring a friend for free if you learn her Motherhood meditation. Reach out to her for more details and mention this podcast.
Episode #27: Men’s sexual appetite and its impact on you with Özlem Peron
Do you know what men want sexually?
Where have you learned about men's sexual desire?
In this conversation with Özlem Peron, Sex & Intimacy Coach, Certified Tantric Yoga & Pranayama Practitioner, and Sacred Sexuality Healer, we talk about common misunderstandings, biological differences, and influences on men's sexual appetite.
Ozlem reveals that there's a discrepancy with what women and society think men want and desire, our knowledge about each other's sexual energy, and what men actually need and crave.
Whether or not you're in a sexual relationship with a man, this is the perfect opportunity to appreciate and understand men in a whole new way. You'll discover there are many assumptions that are made about men's sexual appetite, and just how damaging and far from reality they are for many men.
Listen now to hear Özlem share about:
The turn on that’s available for men when they are embodied and connect with their heart and body.
Our assumptions of men and their sexual desires and appetite are not true.
How men get intimacy and sex confused.
Pornography and its impact on men’s understanding of sex, intimacy and desire.
The difference in the biological make up and sexual energy of men and women
The prevalence of performance anxiety in men
How unrealistic and damaging pornography is
The pressure to come and ejaculate
How important it is for all of us to understand and be intimate with ourselves first.
The impacts on our sexual appetite
How erotic play can help us to understand our partners better
The vulnerability required to understand and explore each other in a sexual relationship
There’s an opportunity for men and women to learn about and from each other
What to do when you and your partner have different sexual appetites
How men can express their sexual energy in healthy ways
What to do when men in our life are not in touch with themselves and seeking to understand and express their sexual energy in healthy, connected ways.
Sexual fears men have
Why it’s important we show up fully expressed as women
What men are really longing for
You can connect with Özlem:
https://www.youtube.com/@WhiteSamsara Instagram
@whitesamsara
https://www.facebook.com/groups/tantraawakeninglove/?ref=share_group_link
Episode #26: Women feeling worthy and wealthy with Nicole Rowan
Money, money, money!
Abba sang about it, everyone wants power and freedom with it, and its taboo nature contributes to how women feel worthy and wealthy.
This is why I asked Nicole Rowan, an award winning, visionary entrepreneur and co-founder of Womanifesting Quantum Wealth, to share her wisdom and understanding of this important topic with you.
Tune in to broaden your understanding and take away a new perspective, insights and tips that will empower you with your money in midlife.
Together we discuss:
The turn on that’s available in midlife
It’s not our fault money is a taboo topic and hard to talk about
Women being groomed to think we’re not good with money
How becoming wealthy is spiritual
The fractured relationship between money, power, sex and sensuality
The value of following your intuition
Where money comes from
Why getting caught up in the how is a distraction.
How we can start to tap into money
The quantum science of wealth
The GOD principle
What you can do if you’re unsure of your purpose
Why being organised is important.
The key role of sistership in creating wealth
Tips to creating worthy relationships with women.
The awesome and surprising signs to know you’re on the right track
Money as a game
An activation to get freedom around money scarcity and competition with others.
When it’s time to ask for more.
Getting your money shit together.
The power of purchasing decisions is with women.
You can connect with Nicole on:
https://www.facebook.com/nicole.rowanholt
https://www.instagram.com/womanifestingquantumwealth
If you want to work with her, or join one of her programs, mention this podcast for a special offer.
Episode #25: Being free to be me with Yvette Mayer
Are you free to be yourself?
Can you confidently say 'This is me' (as the bearded woman sings so powerfully in the movie, The Greatest Showman)?
It's not easy to do, and you're not alone if you can't! In this episode I chat with Yvette Mayer, Intuitive Business Coach (she's been one of my coaches), and Human Design for Marketing Mentor, about how she found herself free to be herself in her midlife, and how discovering human design played a huge role in accessing this freedom.
Listen in to hear her share tips and wisdom about accessing your personal freedom in your midlife, and how human design could help you too.
We cover:
What turned on looks like when you're free to be yourself
One socially acceptable barrier that is stopping us from being free to be ourselves
What you discover when you remove your barriers/blocks
Why it’s so powerful to change a habit for a short period.
What is human design?
How human design can help you to understand yourself
How understanding your energy type can help you in your work
How human design can help you find your purpose and direction.
How human design can help you to understand how you market and run your own business
Why self healing is an important step. You can connect with Yvette at: yvettemayer.com https://www.facebook.com/yvettemayer https://www.instagram.com/yvettemayer_ You can get your free Human Design chart on her website: https://www.yvettemayer.com/chart
Episode #24: Wearing your worth with Sarah Gale
Are you searching for your identity in your clothes or are you wearing your identity through the clothes?
Did you know that the patterns that you see in your wardrobe are the same patterns that you play out in life?
Are you curious about how your clothes can empower you?
Do you feel constrained and confined by what you wear?
In this conversation with Sarah Gale, Founder of Wearing Your Worth, Former Judge on Project Runway Australia, and accredited Coach with over 30 years in the competitive fashion industry, we explore the power of aligning your insides with your outsides, and how your unique style essence can liberate you and transform your relationship to clothes.
Listen in to hear Sarah share:
How being yourself and following your intuition is such a turn on
How young she was when she had a transcendental spiritual experience
How she has used her intuition to build her successful career
About following your heart and fitting in
How your spiritual and soul expression is not contingent on your job
How she showed up authentically on set of Project Runway Australia
What are your style essences
Which voice in my head can I trust?
What we have to give to the world
How to identify the masculine and feminine in your clothing
You can get in contact with Sarah:
https://www.instagram.com/sarahgaleofficial/?hl=en
https://wearingyourworth.com/services/
Episode #23: Midlife magic and miracles with Janelle Ryan
Is it possible to create miracles and magic in your midlife? And if it is, how do we do it?
In this episode, Janelle Ryan, Global Personal Coach, author, and Founder of Sky High Coaching shares how she came to be in the Top 6% of Happiest People in the World, and how you can create miracles and magic in your life.
Tune in to discover: How a coach can help you to feel turned on What is a miracle and who can experience them What is the quantum and how it’s relevant to manifesting and miracles How you can be the creator of miracles and feel turned on. What you can do today to get started A simple and powerful exercises that Janelle gives first to all her clients. Your value is independent of your roles How gratitude can move things from low vibration to a high vibration A tip to spread love with your credit card. The dominance of wellbeing energy in the world that is available for you to focus on. The lessons you can learn from animals and children The times you have created from the quantum. Why challenges are important for your growth and expansion. The link between failure and magic. Why your age doesn't impact your ability to create miracles and magic One question you can ask yourself to give you perspective when things are challenging. A simple mantra for all women in their midlife. You can connect with Janelle via https://www.facebook.com/groups/skyhighcoaching
https://www.linkedin.com/in/janelleryan1/
https://www.instagram.com/skyhighcoaching/
https://www.youtube.com/@janelleryan804
Download the Sky High Coaching app from Google Play or Apple Store for the free resources, including Worthy at Work, Cherish, and How to Take a Quantum Leap. https://www.skyhighcoaching.com.au/
Episode #22: Breaking out of the box with Alena Turley
We live in a society that puts us in a box. We're celebrated when we conform, fit in and follow along. We learn to look outside of ourselves for assurance and get caught up in comparison. It can feel stifling, claustrophobic, and oh so limiting.
In midlife and beyond, many of us discover what a turn on it is to bust out of the box we've been put in!
Alena Turnley has bust out of the box and is an expert at mentoring women doing it!
She's the host of the podcast Unboxable, a martial artist (that's kinda boxing!), and she helps women to heal depletion and make moves towards becoming the changemakers they dream of becoming whilst showing up as the best mum possible (that's getting out of the box!). As a multi-passionate, she has all kinds of experiences and wisdom to share with us.
Tune in to hear her talk about:
How she defines getting out of the box
The opportunity that is presented when your box breaks.
Her 5 steps to getting out of the box
How taking responsibility and doing the work is critical.
One quality that is often needed and overlooked when stepping out of the box.
One thing you can practice now to help you get out of the box.
What creating soul Mama and supporting women has taught her
Divine timing
Why ALL your life experiences count
How her midlife martial arts experience has empowered her
The importance of embracing all parts of yourself
Tips to busting out of your box
Get in contact with Alena via:
- www.alenaturley.com
- https://www.instagram.com/soulmamahub
- to apply for a breakthrough call: https://forms.gle/552s8JJb2qBVc8u56
Episode #21: Stripping back the layers with Host, Penny van der Sluys
When I was little, I loved to run around carefree (and mostly nude or in skimpy crocheted bathers) in the sunshine on the beach.
There was nothing to hide. No shame. No fear of being photographed or sexualised.
It wasn't long before that changed, and growing up in the 80s & 90s, a lot of shitty judgement, criticism, stigma and shame that was dished out to young women stuck!
I learned to hide parts of myself, feel shame and worry about how I looked and what men thought of my body, and so much more.
In this solo episode, I share why these layers of conditioning, expectation, protection, and shame are limiting and what's available when you strip them back.
Tune in to hear me peel back another layer and share some of the things that I love and turn me on!
Episode #20: The power of pussy, the pelvic floor & pleasure with Heidi True
Do the words Pussy and pelvic floor turn you off?
Is your relationship with the word pussy, let alone your actual pussy, fraught?
How about your pelvic floor?
This conversation is here to change that.
In this episode, I talk with Heidi True, Sex and Intimacy coach, and long time yoga teacher specialising in pelvic floor health, about this misunderstood and vitally important region of our body.
Heidi shares how the loss of her husband, and becoming a widow, encouraged her to embrace all of herself, including the parts that felt uncomfortable. If this topic, or this part of your body makes you feel uncomfortable, this is for you. You'll be inspired to rethink your relationship with these parts of your body, learn how they are interlinked with your experience of pleasure, and prioritise them to feel wild, free and sexy in your midlife!
Listen in to discover:
The power in feeling it all and allowing yourself to be embodied.
The stuff we store in and around our pelvic floor
Why it’s important to discover how your body has kept a score
What a healthy pelvic floor feels like
How perimenopause and menopause impacts your pelvic floor
The impact of oestrogen on your body and pelvic floor, particularly in your midlife and beyond
What is pussy and why is pussy important
What exactly is the pelvic floor?
How your Pelvic floor impacts your sex life
How to test the health of your pelvic floor
Tips to begin to create a relationship with your pelvic floor
The best way to start a relationship with your pussy
The truth about female arousal
Heidi can be found on:
Heidi True: True Intimacy on Facebook
and she is most active on @true.intimacy on Instagram.
She has an informative email newsletter once a month which you can sign up for here:
Listeners receive $50 off all coaching packages - just mention this podcast!
Episode #19: Having Honest Sex with Shana James
Honestly, how do you feel about your sex life?
Are you giving it attention? Are your desires being met? Do you know how to ask for what you want?
You're not alone if you have found sex to be a taboo, prohibitively private and misunderstood topic that has ultimately impacted the quality of your conversations and experiences, confidence, and attention on this important part of our lives.
If you're keen to change this, learn more, and discover another way, this is the episode for you.
Listen in to hear what's possible when you get honest, and experience honest sex!
Shana James is the perfect person to help us explore what it means to have honest sex. She's a relationship and dating coach, creator and host of the Man Alive podcast, a TEDx speaker (her talk is titled, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.'), and author of 'Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive' and 'Power and Pleasure: A Man's Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader'.
Together we discuss:
What is honest sex and how can that help us get turned on?
Why sex is not just a genital affair
How we can access orgasmic energy
There’s a way to be orgasmic in the world not just in the bedroom
How to light ourselves up from the inside
The turn on that’s available when we’re spontaneous.
The challenges women face in their midlife in accessing turn on sexually
The power in being honest and owning that what you’re doing isn’t turning you on. saying I don’t know what turns me on anymore!’
The opportunity in midlife to have a much deeper, more honest connection
Whatever your sex life is like now, there is possibility to open a doorway into a whole other universe of different, more honest, sex.
Vulnerability as foreplay.
How to begin having vulnerable honest conversations about sex
Tips to ensure you don’t offend or upset a partner
The importance of taking responsibility for your own pleasure
What women can learn about men in midlife to assist us to have honest sex
Tips for how to broach conversations with men to help you both get what you want.
Don’t wait, start first
What men really want and desire from their female partners
Asking for what you want and desire
When is it a good time to be honest and have a conversation about sex with our partners
Where we can go for inspiration and role modelling around honest sex
What’s possible in midlife when you explore honest sex.
Connect with Shana via her website:
shanajamescoaching.com/
Or via
Instagram @shanajames
https://www.instagram.com/shanajames/
Episode #18: Uncovering your desire to be seen with Sal Daina
We all desire to be seen, heard and valued.
When we are unable to express ourselves and be witnessed, we can feel frustration, hurt and fear. And it can show up in all areas of our life.
In this episode I chat with Sal Daina, an award winning film and video producer, visibility expert and energetic healer, about the gifts of visibility, our soul's desire to be seen, and the wonderful opportunity we have to be visible in our midlife.
Listen to our conversation and discover:
What a turn on it is when women are on screen
The power available when you connect with women's wisdom and the sisterhood
The opportunity that we now have that we can't take for granted
The need for the feminine to be seen on screen
What to do when you struggle with technology
Why your desire to be visible in your life in one area of your life flows through to other areas.
The three main reasons that women in their midlife are stopped from showing up on screen/online.
Simple tips and suggestions to get you in front of the camera and visible online.
Your story and unique weird is what people want
One wild and fast way to get clear on your visibility blocks.
Connect with Sal
5-day Monetize your Magic Visibility Challenge
https://www.saldaina.com/mym
Free Gift -
https://www.saldaina.com/EBOOK-GIFT
Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/visibilityliveonline
Episode #17: Why the first time is a turn on! with Host, Penny van der Sluys
In this super short episode, I reflect on the power of the first time, why it's so memorable and how you can use it to access turn on at any time
Listen in and you'll leave with a simple trick to turn you on!
Click to view the interview on YouTube
Episode #16: Awaken your voice & powerful presence with Danielle Soccio
If you're keen to use your voice more, express yourself fully, or create a powerful presence in your midlife and beyond, this is for you!
In this podcast, I chat with Danielle Soccio, an accomplished singer, performer, creative mentor and speaker, to uncover why understanding and connecting with our voice is so important, impactful, and how it can turn us on!
Danielle shares insights and wisdom drawn from her experiences performing before a viewing audience of a billion people, and as a cutting edge voice & transformation coach for artists, entrepreneurs, professionals and individuals.
Listen in to hear us discuss:
🗣️ What it means to be turned on in midlife
🗣️ What gives your voice power
🗣️ Why it's important to express yourself
🗣️ The impact and cost of blending in, conditioning and the historical context for women
🗣️ What your voice actually is and how you learn to use your voice
🗣️ Being aware of different voice types and their impact and power
🗣️ Practical tips to prepare your voice & vocal cords
🗣️ How the emotional and spiritual aspects of the voice have been overlooked
🗣️ How to discover your natural voice
🗣️ The power of connecting with your truth
🗣️ expressing from an embodied, inward place
🗣️ Challenging the beliefs and fears that suppress our voices
🗣️ The choice we have to share our authentic voice
🗣️ The power in small steps
🗣️ The simple way you can create a powerful presence
🗣️ How to disconnect from your the monkey mind
Discover more and connect with Danielle through these resources and links:
Make Powerful Impact - 4 Keys to Make Your Voice Work Best! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rz3B-X4LY88
The Awaken Your Voice Embodiment Meditation to feel into a state of calm and focus and open your magnetic energetic presence. Link: https://www.daniellesoccio.com/free-meditation/
This is helpful if you would like a meditation practise about embodiment and communicating from your inner voice.
The free ebook "HOW TO COURAGEOUSLY LIVE A FULLY EXPRESSED LIFE!"
Link: https://www.daniellesoccio.com/ebook/
Her website & social links: https://www.daniellesoccio.com
https://www.facebook.com/DanielleSoccioAwakenYourVoice/
https://www.instagram.com/daniellesoccio_awakenyourvoice/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-soccio/
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/1265081363?si=3be9430924cb465d
Her Facebook group 'Live YOUR fully expressed life!' https://www.facebook.com/groups/awakenyourvoiceglobalgroup
Episode #15: Finding the feminine when you're in a fog with Tatiana Slezak
For many of us, our feminine qualities and energy are not the tools we think we serve us when we're feeling lost, frightened, isolated or out of control. Yet Tatiana Slezak, Bioresonance Practitioner and author of 'How to Get Out of the Fog', explains that they're surprisingly powerful parts of us that can guide us through the fog when we tune into them, trust them, and allow them to be expressed.
Tatiana grew up in Poland and migrated to Australia 15 years ago. She shares how her upbringing and move across the world to a different culture has allowed her to appreciate the value of the feminine as an important element of self discipline and turn on.
Tune in to hear us discuss:
What it is to feel turned on
What fog means in her book 'How to Get Out of the Fog'
How addiction suppresses the feminine
What you discover when you change yourself instead of trying to change others
What opens up with challenge and breakdown
Why hitting rockbottom is a blessing
The impact of choices and appreciation
Differences in culture and the expression of the feminine
How following your intuition is efficient
The power of energy and frequency in our body
What Bioresonance is and how it works
The popularity of Bioresonance in Poland
You can connect with Tatiana via:
Instagram @iamtatianaslezak
https://tatianaslezak.com/
Or download her book on the website: https://howtogetoutofthefog.com/
Episode #14: (Wo)manifesting with your womb with Maria Heart Song
When you listen to this episode with Maria Hearth Song, a Purpose Clarity Coach who creates healing, activating high vibrational songs, you'll discover that manifesting might be better referred to as (wo)manifesting!
Regardless of your current relationship with your womb (or lack thereof), Maria, will give you an understanding of the value in reclaiming our Divine Feminine power and sacred womb wisdom so that you can reconnect with your voice, consciously create your life, and be open to receiving what you desire in our midlife and beyond.
Tune in to hear us cover:
Why the womb is a magical space
The womb as a portal and a dumping place
The resistance in connecting with our womb.
The link with our ancestral lines and our relationships with men
Womb wisdom as a remembering and reclamation
Why this is so important for our daughters, young women and the collective.
The connection between our womb and (wo)manifesting
Why masculine energy is equally important
A womanifesting hack
The voice as a powerful healing and creation tool
Our unique voice vibrations
The value of communicating with yourself
And Maria generously sings one of her Heart Song Activations
You can connect with Maria:
mariak@heartsongactivation.com
www.heartsongactivation.com
https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartsongsisterhood
To receive her free gift, Super Abundance Activation, visit https://www.heartsongactivation.com/super-abundance
Episode #13: Songs of Earth and Spirit with Peneleapaí
What opens up for us in our midlife when we tune into our creativity, and connect in with earth and spirit?
In this episode with Peneleapaí, a long established artist, singer-songwriter, teacher, and holistic therapist with a focus on sacred sexuality and tantra, we explore turn on, nude gardening, connecting with childlike innocence and the power of creative expression.
Peneleapaí draws on her experience as teacher of sound, movement, stagecraft and the logos (scribing the word) to encourage us to consider:
Our relationship with our bodies as we age
The legacy of our sexuality
Our ability to reinvent ourselves
Being curious and questioning what is living
The choices we make and getting out of the box
Pleasure as a source of wisdom
Our most precious currency
The lessons in loss and suffering
Sitting with fear and the parts of inner landscape that feel uncomfortable.
Our focus on doing rather than being.
The power of curiosity, intention and excitement.
Investing in yourself.
You can connect with Peneleapaí via her website:
https://www.peneleapai.com/
Or via instagram at:
instagram.com/being_she
Episode #12: Awaken your Erotic Body with Renée Mayne
What do the words kink, erotic, dominatrix and submissive mean to you?
Join me as I explore these often misunderstood, highly sexualised, and rarely discussed forms of expression with Renée Mayne, Madam of the School of Somatic Kink.
Whatever you think is bound to be challenged and expanded in this juicy discussion!
Renée shares her refreshing and expansive views she has cultivated by leading people to embodied transformation through multi-sensory journeys through sensual arts, archetypal embodiment, erotic exploration, kink psychology, sacred relationships and somatic kink healing.
We talk about:
What feeling turned on looks like
The different ways we can express ourselves
Pleasure and why women are afraid of pleasure
Questioning what is truth and what opens up when we do
The opportunity in our untold stories
Kink, fantasies and fetish
Reclaiming words such as kink and cunt
How our beliefs change with time - and what is socially acceptable.
The story of Eros, psyche and voluptuous
The erotic body, one of our 5 bodies
What/who is an intuitive dominatrix
False power
Challenging the perceptions of submissive being weak
The power and beauty in kink
Proactive and achievable first steps at exploring kink
Sex as a parent and in midlife
How to spark desire
What all women in their midlife need to know.
You can connect with Renée via:
https://www.schoolofsomatickink.com/
https://www.facebook.com/SchoolOfSomaticKink
Cuntgruence- A 5-minute practice to cultivate pleasure and Eros in the body.
Womb and Divine Consciousness Meditation
BEGINNER’S GUIDE TO BDSM & KINK
Journal Prompts.
Episode #11: Boobs, bras & blow ups with Myf Browning
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So many women are uncomfortable with their boobs, in their bras, and when there are big blow ups in life.
In this episode I talk with Myf Browning, an Intimo Lingerie leader, spiritual mentor and bra fit specialist, about what's available for women when we create a healthy relationship with our boobs, feel worthy of wearing beautiful bras, and see the opportunity in the moments when life blows up, as when she was diagnosed with breast cancer.
Listen in to hear us talk about all the layers surrounding our boobs, bras and big blow ups that are hidden and need our positive attention.
Together we explore:
The importance of prioritising our boobs
What a turn on it is to have beautiful, well fitted bras and underwear
How a women's self worth is reflected in layers, starting with her bra
The power of the unconscious mind and intuition
How listening to, and knowing, our body is empowering.
The opportunity when you're presented with a big blow up in life.
Embodying our wild
Energetic frequency
How to develop body confidence
How breast self checking is a life saver and a turn on
You can connect with Myf
https://www.instagram.com/myfbrowning/
https://www.instagram.com/fittedbymyf/
There are a handful of opportunities to claim a free bra when you book a FITME® appointment and shop your lingerie capsule. Use the referral code (FM2305001294) when you Book with Myf at Glen Iris, Northcote or online which is all fit guaranteed:
https://heldbymyf.as.me/
Episode #10: When life isn’t sweet with Mugs Haugen
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Our consumption of sugar is harming us. There's mounting evidence that sugar damages our teeth, gut lining, liver, pancreas, kidney, heart and state of mind. Yet it continues to be a major sweetener in our lives. It's hidden in a lot of our food, and is socially acceptable and embraced in our celebrations, culture and community.
So what would life be like without sugar in it? Is it possible to live a TURNED ON life when life isn't sweet?
In this episode, Mugs Haugen, a 64 year old nurse and coach, shares how she turned her life around when she focused on herself and her health, and eliminated sugar and flour from her diet. She lost 60 pounds (27kg) six years ago and has lived a healthy vibrant, active life ever since.
Mugs now supports nurses, healthcare professionals, and caregivers to break through burnout, overwhelm, and stress when their lives don't feel so sweet!
Together we discussed:
The importance of focusing on your own health and nourishing your body and soul when you’re a caregiver
How serving others can turn you on
The power of awareness and choice
How you can only really serve others when your cup is full to overflowing
The importance of boundaries and saying 'No'
Food as medicine
Feeling empowered within broken systems
Self responsibility and self determination
Willpower and re-training our brains
The ‘symptoms’ that are caused by sugar
How to set yourself up for success
Removing sweets can actually ‘sweeten’ your life
Giving up guilt & gratitude
You can connect with Mugs:
https://www.anchoredheartcoaching.com
Nurses Self Care Circle
https://www.facebook.com/groups/577240697754334/
The book I mention is:
That Sugar Book by Damon Gameau
Episode #9: A Queenager’s guide to the post menopause ride with Naomi Eyers
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We've all heard about menopause, but what happens afterwards? What can you expect on the other side?
In this episode, Naomi Eyers, a talented and acclaimed writer, director, producer and performer shares about the power & joy of being a post-menopausal Queenager.
Her latest creative endeavour, 'GlamourPussy', rose like Venus from lockdown and the hormone hurricane of menopause, and is singing and shining a spotlight on how we can embrace the menopausal ride and come out the other side!
Together we discuss:
The secrets of post menopause
What it feels like to be invisible as you age
Turning rejection into resolve
Plastic surgery
Mutton dressed as lamb/glam
Being sexy and embracing ourselves whatever our age.
The messages we’d tell our younger self
The importance of doing things for yourself
Valuing your creations
Being brave, trusting & letting go of perfection
The similarities between being a teenager and a Queenager
Self pleasure to know yourself and feel alive
Sex & self pleasure in this part of life
Post menopause role models
You can connect with Naomi on:
Instagram https://instagram.com/glamourpussau
Facebook: https://facebook.com/glamourpussie
And take advantage of the discount offer at Happy Mash with the code glamourpussy25 www.happymash.com.au
Episode #8: Pleasure powered by plants with Carolyn Farrow
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Being Turned On by Plants is totally wild. And free(ing)!
It can also be super sexy!
In this episode, I talk with Carolyn Farrow, an Elevated Health and Vitality coach about what's available when we power our lives with plants. Carolyn is a lover of all things plant based and extends this love by helping her community to make healthy changes in their bodies and their homes. She firmly believes that health is far easier than we’ve been led to believe and that plant medicine is our greatest ally.
Together, we discuss:
Why it's important our bodies are in balance
Pleasure as our natural state and birth right
What is plant medicine
How plant medicine can support your body to get into balance
The importance of listening to your body's messages
Different ways you can use essential oils
How essential oils can turn you on
Which essential oils are best to get you feeling aroused and turned on sexually
You can connect with her at:
https://www.carolynfarrow.com/
Instagram: carolynfarrow_
FB: Vitality - Carolyn Farrow
Episode #7: Intimacy & sensual play with Helen Zee
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If you're curious about creating or deepening intimacy, and discovering what's available through sensual play, regardless of your age, partner situation or circumstances, then this is the episode for you!
My guest is Helen Zee, a Certified Tantra Practitioner, Fertility & Menstrual Health Practitioner, and fitness and yoga professional, helps women and men improve their intimacy and relationships through unlocking the pleasure dome that lives within.
Together we explore:
What is means to be Turned On
The 'Pleasure dome'
Interoception and inner alchemy
The importance of tuning into ourselves
Sound, movement and breath as access to pleasure
What you can put in a sensuality toolkit
What is sensual play
Simple sensual practices and play that can help you to tune in and feel turned on.
What to do when a partner isn't interested in sensual play
Why it's worth doing the work to prioritise pleasure
What's possible when you feel disconnected and uncomfortable with parts of your body
You can connect with Helen via social media: https://www.instagram.com/helen.zee/
https://www.facebook.com/helen.zee.14/
Her website:
https://www.helenzee.com/ And take up her offer of a free discovery call here:
Episode #6: Feeling Sexy at any Age with Juliet Schaub
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What is it to feel sexy? Can you feel sexy at any age?
In Western Cultures, sexy has been reserved for women who are young and of childbearing age. So what happens when you get to midlife?
To explore this, I chat with Juliet Schaub, a pole dancer and teacher, and creatrix of “The Divine Huntress School of Sensuality". Juliet is passionate about guiding women in their sensual journey and rediscovering their feminine power through movement, dance and radical -self acceptance.
In this episode we discuss:
What it is to be turned on and feel sexy
The stigma of pole dancing
Ageism
The power of sisterhood
You can connect with Juliet via her facebook Group "The Realm of the Divine Huntress School of Sensuality"
Episode #5: Embodying your Inner Goddess with Jagriti Bhatia
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How can you be a Goddess? What does it take to embody your Inner Goddess?! What’s available in midlife when you do?
In this conversation, Jagriti Bhatia, Founder of Ignite Bollywood Dance Company and wisdom holder of feminine secrets, explains how we can use Goddess archetypes to tap into our feminine power, connect with the divinity within us, and be TURNED ON.
She explains what a Goddess is, how we can play with the 8 Goddess archetypes that form her Goddess Wheel (below), and invites us to use this exploration to get in balance, live with grace and ease, and feel alive.
To connect with Jagriti, find her via Insta:
Instagram.com/jagritifeminineleadership
Instagram.com/ignitebollywood
OR email info@ignitebollywood.com
The website for her Bollywood dance company is www.ignitebollywood.com.au
Episode #4: How to have Healthy Hormones with Nicole Coutts
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For most women, the changes and the impact of our hormones as we move through midlife are a shock - the sneaky surprises that pop up as a result of inadequate information, education and support. We experience 'symptoms' yet we have little insight into why our body is doing what it's doing and how we can support it and feel empowered.
In this episode, Nicole Coutts, a naturopath and mind-body practitioner and coach, shares her insights and tips to help us have healthy happy hormones.
Her approach is refreshing, realistic and invites us to consider the impact of our beliefs and emotions on our hormone health.
The most important way we can support ourselves through midlife and beyond will surprise you. It's not what you would expect a naturopath to say. And it's not a hack or quick fix!
Listen to our conversations to hear about:
The importance of taking small steps and tweaking our lifestyle rather than overhauling our lives
A refreshing reframe of midlife and menopause
The undeniable link between our physical body and unprocessed emotion
The powerful impact of our beliefs on our body
Lots of different ways you can support your hormones and assist your body to feel healthy and turned on during midlife.
You can connect with Nicole via her socials
https://www.instagram.com/nicolecoutts/
https://www.facebook.com/nicole.coutts.7
Visit her website to access her free "Hormone balancing breakfast guide" - 3 simple break fast recipe templates to balance your hormones, keep you satisfied and increase your energy.
Episode #3: Body Love, Acceptance & Awareness with Liz Reichard
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Our bodies get a LOT of attention! And it's not all positive. They are harshly judged by our culture, community and our inner critic!
As we move through life, our body changes. We're taught to resist, distrust, manipulate, control and fight our body.
In this episode, I've invited Liz Reichard, a Body Image expert, and teacher of the embodied dance practice, Qoya, to share her views on how we can live a turned on life in the body we have.
We discuss:
Why it's important to give attention to our body.
How to feel turned on in the body you have.
Why midlife is an important time for women.
Embodiment and how it can help you feel turned on.
The benefits of being back in your body
How embodied dance can help you find and remember your power within.
The value of movement, and moving for ourselves
How to feel ok in your body.
The body image spectrum from body love to body loathing
The fashion industry discriminating against women based on their size
Is the ideal healthy body really healthy?
Commenting on someone’s body shape
Liz’s key to body liberation
Liz shared some of her favourite body image role models are:
Taryn Brumfit, 2023 Australian of the Year and maker of the documentary 'Embrace'
The Embrace Collective - started by Taryn to help create better body image now and for future generations
Lizzo - African American singer
Sydney Bell - African American dancer and model
Amy Pence-Brown - American fat positive activist.
Amy Sheppard - Australian singer from the band Sheppard and of her own music, in particular "Kiss My Fat Ass" check out the video!
Celeste Barber - Aussie comedian who got big taking the piss out of the ridiculous fashion/SM/media industry and the way women are portrayed
Sonya Renee Taylor - African American woman who wrote the book The Body Is Not an Apology
You can sign up to Liz's email newsletter and receive your first Qoya class pass at:
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FB: https://www.facebook.com/sunrangesqoya
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sunrangesqoya/
Episode #2: Sexual Pleasure and all the Possibilities with Mangala Holland
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For many women in their midlife, any attention given to sex and pleasure is for someone else's benefit. Only when everyone else is satisfied, will a woman consider her sexual needs, desires and give herself any time or opportunity to receive pleasure.
It's time this changed! And women felt TURNED ON!
My guest, Mangala Holland, is on a mission to help women and pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and accessing way more pleasure than they ever thought possible and believes that midlife is an opportunity for powerful, positive transformation.
Together we talk about why sexual pleasure is worth prioritising and opens up all kinds of possibilities in other areas of our lives.
Tune in to discover:
Why pleasure can be challenging for women
The benefits of pleasure
How your sexual expression impacts other areas of your life
What you've been told is sex, isn't! It's way more!!
The most important difference to remember between real sex and that you see on tv/movies and porn
The best way to begin exploring your own sexual pleasure
The importance of feeling safe and connected to your body
The value in sharing wisdom with other women in sisterhood
What the Orgasm Gap is
Why we should stop trying to orgasm.
Our bodies are built for sexual pleasure.
It's never too late to begin to experience your sexual pleasure.
You can find Mangala's free 3 part video series, From Shut Down to Sensual Satisfaction on her website:
https://mangalaholland.com/sss
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Episode #1: What is TURNED ON? An Intro with Penny van der Sluys
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When we think of TURNED ON, our mind automatically thinks of sexual turn on. That's only one part of what this podcast is all about.
TURNED ON is what you feel like when your mind, body and soul are aligned with your values. When you feel energised, alive and free to express yourself. When the light inside of you is switched on.
In this episode I share why living a TURNED ON life is important, what's available when you live a TURNED ON live, and what you can expect when you listen to this podcast.
You can follow me on social media - facebook and instagram - and download your free 10 Tips to TURN ON here on my website.
I'd love to receive your suggestions, feedback and contributions at penny@pennyvandersluys.com